Why We Often Loved Hurting People?

People we know and most loved is the one who most often we hurt, like any good deeds through words.

The researchers who studied the phenomenon of aggression refer to as "daily attack". This topic itself has been specifically studied since 1974.

Deborah South Richardson, professor of psychology, who conducted this research focused on attacks based on a person's intentions, rather than the effects of the attack. "What we researched was his intention. If I take a gun and shoot at you but missed, my intention is still to attack," he said.

But he acknowledged such a study would be difficult because of the limitations on what one can recognize clearly. "We all sometimes do not realize what we are doing," he said.

Here are some things Richardson found in his research.

 

- We tend to be more aggressive in people we know and most love, not strangers. This could be because we spend the most time with them or because the most meaningful relationships.

- Type basic aggression is a direct assault. For example, yelling, hitting, fighting, and action and deeds are painful. Men more often use this attack, including in sexual matters.

- Other type of aggression is not a direct attack, which means hurting without confrontation. There are two types of indirect attacks, which hurt by others and hurt someone without doing anything (passive aggression).

- Indirect Assault example is gossip, spreading rumors or damaging someone's favorite. Both men and women alike often use this type of attack.

- Passive Aggression example ignore the phone, arrive late, or silencing someone.

- We usually do a direct assault on a person with a very close relationship, such as siblings. Someone feel safe doing it because you still brothers.

- Attacks can be positive if the goal is to protect yourself when no one else wants to attack.